Without it, life would be really boring and really hard.
I’m so grateful for mine. I live 3,500 miles away from my family, and let me tell you…that is H A R D. But God has given us the most amazing community. People who are just like family to us. People who love our babies like their own. People who go out of their way to take care of us. People who would do anything for us.
There are a handful of people in our community who I can legitimately say I could not survive without. My day-to-day life would not be possible without the help I receive from others — from people who owe me nothing but serve me and my family out of sincere love and generosity.
Sometimes that can be a hard pill to swallow. Sometimes it makes me feel guilty. Or not good enough. Why can’t I manage my own life by myself? But the truth is, God didn’t design life to be done alone. He designed us for community.
To share our strengths.
To love each other.
To need each other.
Imagine how selfish and prideful we might become if we could do everything ourselves.
Community keeps us humble. It keeps us united. It keeps us in sync with who God created us to be.
If you’re trying to do life alone,
on your own little island,
or maybe “us four and no more,”
and you’re frustrated because it’s not working…there’s a reason for that.
Find your community and thrive there.
Not sure how to do that or what that looks like for you? Here are three simple ways you can thrive in your community:
- Plug in to your local church. that’s the best place to start. Go to church. Serve at your church. Join a small group if that’s available. I know it’s tough to add “one more thing” to your agenda, but life is all about priorities and choosing to make time for the things that matter most. And I promise you…community matters.
- Join a mom’s group. Can’t find one? Start one! It doesn’t have to be anything official or extravagant. Get together for coffee on a regular basis. Meet at the park and chat while the kids play. Invite them over to your house for a relaxed evening on the couch. We have to be intentional about our relationships or else our relationships will suffer greatly.
- Be a part of someone else’s village. You can probably think of at least one person/family who seems to constantly be investing in your family. You feel like you can never say “thank you” enough, and you could certainly never repay them for all they’ve done for you. And you’re probably right. You can’t. But what you can do is pay it forward. It sounds cliche, but it’s such an important part of a community life. We give and receive. We bless and are blessed. Consider people in your community who are walking through a season you’ve already been through. Share wisdom, help them in practical ways, support them on their journey. No two people have the same role in a community. Find out where you can serve someone else, and do it!