All my life my mom has constantly told me how pretty and beautiful I am. I love hearing that. I mean, who doesn’t love compliments? She has always encouraged me and to this day knows exactly what to say to make me feel better, like most mothers do.
She has always praised me but for some reason is so tough on herself. I have never heard my mom say the words, “I am beautiful” or “I like the way I look.” For as long as I can remember she has had a negative view of her own body. Even now my mom still points out her so called “flaws” and refers to herself as “fat.”
I always wondered why she did that, because to me and to so many other people she is beautiful both inside and out. She doesn’t have “flaws” she has battle wounds. She is not “fat”, she has beautiful curves.
I never realized how negative my mom was on herself until recently when I noticed myself criticizing my own looks. It was then that I realized even though my mother did such a wonderful job praising my appearance and assuring me how beautiful I am, it didn’t really matter.
Don’t get me wrong, it is so important to tell your children how beautiful or handsome they are. But they don’t learn to love their bodies and self image just with praise. It is taught. Mamas, we need to set an example by loving our own bodies.
Children learn through example and they watch everything we do. If we are constantly criticizing our own looks, what kind of example is that? We are teaching them to be hard on themselves which is definitely not what we want to do.
In order to teach our children to love and be accepting of their bodies, we as mamas need to accept our own bodies first. We are all beautiful and unique in our own way so embrace your “flaws” and love your curves!
The next time you’re tempted to point out a “flaw” on your body, remember your kids are watching and they are always learning through example. Love your bodies Mamas!