“Wow, you’re having them awfully close!” “I think it’s irresponsible to have more kids in such a small house!” “I don’t even know what to think of your pregnancy.”
These are all quotes from friends, loved ones and completely random strangers that I have gotten on each and every one of my three pregnancies. When my husband and I found out we were expecting this time around we already decided that weren’t going to care about the approval of men but fully lean and depend on the approval of God.
We’ve had a lot of people happy about our pregnancies. Even more so than negative however, it’s hard sometimes when other people especially family and friends look down on you because they see your situation as unfit to bring a child in the world. Such as living in a one bedroom place and your husband working a dangerous job. But you know what… My husband and I are happy. My children are happy. Living in a small space has not only brought us closer as a family but it has given us opportunities to minister to other people and has made it possible for us to save even more money so that we could buy the house we’ve wanted but we’re not nor do we plan to wait until our lives are completely together the way we want it to have kids. Because if we did we still wouldn’t have any kids and probably wouldn’t for the next ten years or maybe longer.
My husband and I from day one have decided and felt the peace of God in having kids from the start of our marriage. And we decided that we weren’t going to let our circumstances, finances and especially peoples opinions decide when the right time for us to have kids would be. We believe with all our heart what God says about children. That they are a blessing from the Lord. A gift. And God provides for His gifts and He has done so in a amazing way with all of our babies.
It used to break me, beat me and even cause me to second guess God’s timing of our baby when people would come to me with such doubt. But if I could say anything to a mom who is going through the heartache of people who don’t approve of her blessing I would tell her this.
If everyone waited for their circumstance to be ideal or perfect in every aspect of their life before having kids odds are we would never have them. Having children are not only a gift from God it brings Him so much joy when we have them and He has promised many many times to provide. And if you and your spouse feel peace about having kids despite what other people would think I say go for it. Because having children is a beautiful thing that is between you, your spouse and God and I believe if it’s on your heart to have a child God will not only provide the child but also the needs and even wants that come with such an amazing lifestyle.
So like I tell everyone now when people look at me like I’m cray for being pregnant. Jesus was the biggest world changer of all and He had a humble beginning. Maybe all the world changers start with humble beginnings.