We could get into the whole conversation about mom guilt, but we aren’t. Because I’m a firm believer that we need to change that narrative all together. As mothers, we need time for ourselves. It’s not selfish, it’s not wrong. It’s vital.
Taking time to do things for ourselves, makes us better mothers.
It might renew our minds, give us five seconds to breathe, or remind us that we are more than just mothers.
So here’s a list of ten things you can do this week for your own self care:
1. Spend time with Jesus.
This should be a necessity every day, but let’s be honest. It doesn’t happen every day. Sometimes sick kids (or husbands) get in the way. Sometimes we just…forget, because the days starts with a bullhorn and doesn’t end until midnight. The best news, though, is that Jesus is always with us. Eagerly waiting for us to spend some time with Him. Talk about renewing your mind!
2. Go for a walk.
Being outside increases creativity, lowers your stress, and gives you more energy. Research has long proved that going on walks daily lead to a better and healthier life. Now, listen ladies. I’m not suggesting you start training for a marathon (although that is amazing!), but if you find yourself just needing some air. Go outside for a walk! Plus, this is a great time for some praise and prayer!
3. Make a solo Target run.
Let’s just say this one together, “Target is life”. Target is most life, when you get to go alone. So do it. You don’t even need to spend any money, although I haven’t figured out how do this yet. Suggestions welcome. But I’m sure some women have the self control to just browse. Find a sitter, go after bedtime, make it happen.
4. Get a haircut.
And or some color too. Too expensive to get it done professionally, I totally hear you. Go get a boxed color. Love the color you already have? Do something crazy with color. They make pinks and blues and greens that wash out in a matter of weeks. You can hide it if you want, or show the world what a cool mom you are. Don’t want a hair cut or some color? Just go do your hair. You remember, with those hot things that make your hair wavy.
5. Plan a dinner with friends.
I honestly just sent a friend the, “We seriously need to plan dinner together soon” text. Getting to go to dinner with friends is always a pick me up. Laughing and possibly enjoying some wine is always a recipe for delight. Find somewhere new to go in town. Plus. You get to actually get dressed.
6. Go get a mani and pedi.
I don’t even feel like this one needs an explanation.
7. Watch an episode of Friends.
Or Gilmore Girls. Or The Office. Or whatever old tv show you just can’t get enough of even though you’ve seen every episode ten times. I’m not talking about a new show on tv that you currently watch, like This Is Us (oh that show), I’m talking about an oldie but a goodie. One you know will make you laugh, or cry with happiness.
8. Listen to a 90’s playlist and dance.it.out.
Spotify is my go to. They have so many playlists with 90’s songs. It’s my guilty pleasure when I’m in the car alone, because let’s be honest. Belting out the words to Santeria by Sublime may not be the ideal song to listen to with tiny ears in the car.
It’s all the rage these days, and for a good reason. Your brain becomes so focus on it that cares and worries slip away. Which is ok for just a little while. You can find adult coloring books now, just about everywhere.
10. Get dressed, do your hair, and put on some makeup.
When all else fails, and even if the rest of my day still continues to be one snowball after the other, doing this always puts me in a better mood. Even if it’s just leggings and a t-shirt, and just mascara. I feel better. There’s just something about tackling those diapers and crayon marks on the wall while looking good that just works.
Doing things for yourself, mama, is a must. It might take some planning and some babysitters, but make it happen. If we live close to each other, I’ll come watch your babes. Because we need time alone.
What have you done lately, just for you?