When I started my blog almost five years ago, I had one main purpose I wanted to shine through with my writing. I wanted to be authentic, and show other mamas how authentic motherhood starts in the heart and in the home.
The definition of authenticity is saying something and actually doing it. It’s having a purpose, it’s being real. Casting a vision for yourself and your home.
Truly friend, you set the tone in the home. There is the funny, silly quote If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!.
But there is so so much truth wrapped in this quote. Martha Peace says in one her books:
The wife and mother who views life as a “cross to bear” influences the others in the home to think the same way. She easily robs everyone else of joy and like the yeast in the bread she bakes, her ungodly attitudes spread to everyone else.
This is such a hard truth to swallow. God gave us a beautiful role to encompass.
How you react when the dishes are overflowing, coffee spills or what you do in your free time- those little eyes are watching and even your husband.
Here are a few simple tips to get started on casting a vision & setting the tone in your home:
- Making your Home a Haven
This seems so cliche and you’ve probably read it somewhere but a haven is a safe place. A retreat to go to for rest, reenergizing, etc. So how can you do this?
Eating meals together
Praying and reading the Bible together
Having family game nights or movie nights
(This is the same schedule we’ve kept for the past few years)
- Welcoming Hospitality
My husband and I both have visions and goals for when we have people over. We hope they come over and feel warmth, calm, relaxed & welcomed. We hope that they leave more positive and peaceful. It seems like a lot but we aim to have it written all over our home. Hospitality isn’t about being prideful of our home but it all starts in the heart. In our hearts we have casts these visions for our home!
Talk to your husband (and kids even!)
Write down some words you want others to feel when they come visit
Pray over your vision before you have company
- Practice Self Care
I am so so adamant about this one friends! Mamas please grab sometime for yourself, it is NOT selfish, prideful or sinful. It’s a must for any mama of littles or even of older kids too! Don’t know where to start?
Have your husband take the kids to the park and you stay home
Have a girl’s night out
Go get a pedicure
Target run ALONE
Take a nice quiet bath- buy some bath salts, essential oils & play some music
Start a hobby
- Minimalist & Inspiring Decor
I love to make things pretty, especially in our new home! Sometimes if you are on a tight budget or don’t feel as creative it can be hard to know WHAT to do first but I feel I have finally gotten a handle on what I want in our home after living in multiple rentals for almost 8 years. First I have to say practice, try out different ideas and if you don’t like it- toss it. Don’t keep it.
Buy flowers each week (place on table or mantle)
Color code your books on shelf
Pictures that take your breathe away -BUY them, save up!
Pillows or sheets that are beautiful & make you jump for joy
Keep it simple with furniture (only what is NEEDED)
Blank walls speak (don’t be afraid to leave a wall blank)
Green plants (They can be fake, that’s what I will be grabbing)
Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful.